Not Everyone Will Love You… And it’s Okay!

“Not everyone’s going to love you, and it’s okay!” I think about this hard, very direct, yet loving, truth that was shared with me several years ago from a sweet, wise lady. I do not recall what our conversation was about that day that led her to share this profound truth with me, but it was evident to her that I desperately needed to hear it. Not only did I need to hear it, but I also needed be okay with it. God has used this statement in my life multiple times since then and God has used it as a major catapult in helping to shift my focus and recognizing where my heart really belongs.

Desiring acceptance and love, especially from those closest to me and those that I cross paths with frequently, has always been something I longed for- primarily because I feel like this has been something that has lacked throughout my life. This need for love and acceptance and my efforts to fill this need as I saw best, has served to be one of my greatest hindrances in life. It is a pit that I found myself in, and the deeper I dug it, and the longer I dwelled there, the more susceptible I was to hurt, disappointment, and loneliness. It was a pit that always remained empty and never filling up with what I longed for.

And as the song goes … “I was lookin’ for love in all the wrong places. Looking for love in too many faces.” And so it was with me. I was looking to be fulfilled with love and acceptance from everyone except the One who was already offering me all that I longed for. I just kept looking in all those wrong places.

That was me, and still is me at times, but Jesus reminds me often, “Fix your eyes on me, abide in me, trust in me, lay your heart at my feet, and never will you fail to find the love and acceptance you so desperately seek. I will love you with an everlasting love.” (Jeremiah 31:3)

So, what is your “not everyone is going to love you, and it’s okay” statement? Change the words to fit you and where you are right now. Whatever you keep seeking after to fill your heart that leaves you with only continued emptiness, know that it’s a space in your heart that God is able to fill and will fill! Fix your eyes upon Him and let Him fill you today! There is no pit that’s too deep!