It’s February and love is in the air… or is it?? Is it love in the air or just romance?
Then vs. Now….
The first picture was taken probably 17 years ago…
there’s a lot of life that has been lived in between these pictures and I’m thankful, after all of these years, we can still be caught smiling together.
I love a good romance movie. Most of the time, you can predict from the very start of the movie who will be struck by cupid’s arrow, but it’s the journey of how the special couple comes together that is the unknown and we tend to really love the build up that leads to the predictable climax.
The key, however, is to remember that stories like these are simply that- stories. The moment we watch movies like that and use it as a measure of marital success, we are doomed.
Marriage, although we should pursue romance, is not always romantic BUT it should always be rooted in love.
You can have love and romance but it’s crucial know they are not the same.
✨Romance is defined as an intense feeling of attraction, intimacy, and passionate love towards another person, often characterized by affectionate, caring actions.
✨ Love, on the other hand, is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. (1 Cor. 13:4-7)
Here’s the real talk-
Anyone who has been married for any length of time knows that marriage is sometimes HARD! A blessing? Absolutely, YES! Hard? Also yes! Always romantic? I’m afraid not.
Too often, couples are entering marriage with an escape route in place just in case it becomes necessary (a.k.a- I’m just not feeling it anymore), instead of entering with the mindset of a lifelong commitment.
Our society today is too quick to throw this treasure (marriage) out with trash and often times it’s because having a relationship rooted in love is much harder than having a romantic one. Romance can be fleeting but love is what remains.
When I read what God says love is, I realize just how much help I need to love my husband or anyone for that matter.
Marriage is not something that you do in your own strength but in HIS!
Pursue and pray for the ability to love your spouse well and remember:
❤️ Hard moments do not equal a bad marriage.
❤️ Romance that seems to be dwindling doesn’t equal a dead marriage. The coals are still burning and with some effort, our marriages can burn brightly again. Seek to stoke the fire, not put it out.
❤️ Not seeing eye to eye on everything doesn’t equal not being like minded, not having anything in common anymore, or that you are drifting apart. A different perspective tends to be an asset, more often than not.
❤️ You and your spouse are enough of a reason to strengthen or salvage your marriage. Of course the kids are an important factor but they should not be the main reason that a husband and wife stay together. Kids grow up and move out- your spouse will remain.
❤️ Marriage counseling is not a sign of failure but is a reflection of fighting for a treasure.
❤️ Comparing your marriage to another marriage is never the answer. No marriage is perfect and they all have their own weaknesses!
Love is always the answer.
(Abusive relationships do not apply and is a completely different conversation)





